Things do seem to be turning around, and that bodes well, I think. Gavin lost his old job, but that has made way for a new one. He's still in the same line of work, but the hours are better, it's closer, and he's making more money. It's been less than a week since he started, and we already feel less stressed. My only real worry at this point is that we won't have insurance for a couple of months, but when it's time to sign up, we can now afford to put everyone on the policy and not just Gavin. Things are really looking up. I don't mean to get so personal, but I feel like I need to share the blessings that are coming our way.
On another note, I have been thinking a lot lately about the concept of dowries. When Gavin and I got married, he paid 8 pieces of silver to Ermund as my bride price. I like that tradition, but I have been thinking about how it would work in a more modern sense.
If our ancestors had continued to practice their ancient religion into modern times, uninterrupted, I wonder how this custom might have changed. Certainly, I think the tradition would have continued, but I think the gifts might have changed. As a mother of two boys, I wonder what bride-price my boys might pay to their future in-laws. Whether the boys marry heathen women or not, I intend that they give respectful gifts to the parents of their future wives. What might these gifts be? I feel like some form of jewelry would be the most practical. It has value, can be worn, displayed, and handed down along family lines. Rather than silver bullion (which is still very valuable, particularly in today's market), a gift of jewelry can be very personal. Imagine how special an engagement ring or wedding band can be, and think of a proud mother-in-law wearing a beautiful ring or pendant given by an adoring son-in-law as thanks for her daughter's hand. It is something she can be proud of and brag about, and something that can perhaps be passed along to her grand-daughters some day. I think, especially for non-heathen in-laws, a gift of jewelry would seem less like "payment" and more like a "gift". For those heathens that might understand the custom a little better, they would appreciate a monetary gift for what it is. I do not mean paper money, of course, but gold or silver, which will always have intrinsic value. If it was my daughter, I would appreciate either, but I haven't got any, so I think about what gifts my sons might give.